This year we explore what kinds of wedding traditions truly accentuate the roots of African -Americans and how to add culture to the wedding experience.
We would like to share with you the wedding of Marvin and Vanessa Banister in the brides own words...
On August 13, 2005, my family, friends and I brought Africa to Central Florida. In essence, I (the bride) did a lot of research and shared my findings. For instance, the following took place: a pouring of libation, presenting of lobola, a tasting ceremony with a kola nut communion (i.e., we will share kola nuts with our guests), lighting of Mishumaa Saba (ref. Kwanzaa Ceremony), crossing sticks ritual, and jumping-the-broom ritual. In addition, Afro-centric appetizers (e.g., goat cheese vegetable samosa, meat samosa, kofta curry meatballs, akara, and banana fritters) were served to guests.
There was also African inspired dancing and drumming. How was this pulled this off? Again, it required a lot of research! For instance, my dress was designed by the great author and bridal designer Therez Fleetwood. My husband's matching outfit, which was made with ashoke and lace, was designed by Cheikh at Africa by the Bay, Inc located in Oakland, CA. The wedding party (10 bridesmaids and 10 groomsmen) wore African outfits, which were designed by Cheikh. The event planner, Edith Sparrow, and staff gathered custom African pieces such as wood carved chairs, statues, and masks to decorate the scene. Lots of plants, vases and sounds set the tone.
African American brides (as myself) who attempt to organize/accomplish Afro-centric weddings. Many brides have worked very hard to pull of Afro-centric weddings by considering (1) Afro-centric wedding invitations, (2)Afro-centric outfits, (3) braids instead of an up-do, (4) African drummers and dancers, and (5) the jumping-the-broom ritual. These traditions are very important but only capture a glimpse of what it means to have an Afro-centric wedding. An Afro-centric wedding requires one to deeply research the past and present wedding traditions of Africans and African Americans. One must consider the creative ways that our African ancestors attempted to "legitimize" matrimony.